Topic: Getting Married due to Strong Desire    (No-18139)

Q I am a twenty-year-old who suffers from severe sexual frustration and feels a strong urge to get married. At first, my parents said they would arrange my marriage once I start earning. Now that I have started earning, my parents want me to complete my education and plan to arrange my marriage only when I am 26/27 years old. I fear that I might give in to my desires and stray onto the wrong path if I don't get married soon. Please provide a solution to my predicament.

a In such circumstances, the parents should find a suitable match and arrange your marriage. Otherwise, if you become overwhelmed with desire and commit a sin, the burden of the sin will be on both you and your parents. Until your marriage takes place, adhere to the following guidelines:
1. Guard your gaze.
2. Avoid interactions with non-mahram women.
3. Regularly observe fasts, as it helps suppress sexual desires.
4. Refrain from consuming foods that increase sexual desire.
5. Make every effort to avoid inappropriate environments and thoughts. Keep yourself busy, avoid being alone as much as possible, and when being alone is unavoidable, spend as little time alone as possible.
6. Consider pledging allegiance (bait) to a spiritual mentor or spending some time in Tablighi Jamaat and stay in the company of pious individuals.
By adhering to these measures, it is hoped that Allah will protect you from the deceit and evil of Shaitan.

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دلائل:

مشکوۃ المصابیح: (باب الولی فی النکاح و استئذان المرأة، رقم الحدیث: 3138، 191/3، ط: مکتبۃ البشری)
عن أبی سعید وابن عباس رضی الله عنھما قالا: قال رسول الله صلی الله علیہ وسلم: من ولد لہ ولد فلیحسن اسمہ وأدبہ، فاذا بلغ فلیزوجہ، فان بلغ ولم یزوجہ فأصاب اثمًا فانما اثمہ علٰی أبیہ۔“

صحیح البخاری: (کتاب النکاح، رقم الحدیث: 5066، 363/3، ط: دار الکتب العلمیۃ)
عن عبد اللّٰہ بن مسعود رضي اللّٰہ عنہ قال: کنا مع النبي صلی اللّٰہ علیہ وسلم شبابًا لا نجدُ شیئًا،فقال لنا رسول اللّٰہ صلی اللّٰہ علیہ وسلم: یا معشر الشباب! من استطاع منکم الباء ۃ فلیتزوج؛ فإنہ أغض للبصر وأحصن للفَرَجِ، ومن لم یستطع فعلیہ بالصوم؛ فإنہ لہ وجاء۔

رد المحتار: (کتاب النکاح، 79/3، ط: سعید)
فإن تیقن الزنا إلا بہ فرض ’’نہایۃ‘‘ أي: بأن کان لا یمکنہ الاحتراز عن الزنا إلا بہ؛ لأن ما لا یتوصل إلی ترک الحرام إلا بہ یکون فرضاً، وہٰذا إن ملک المہر والنفقۃ۔

Allah the Almighty knows best.
Darul ifta Al-Ikhlas, Karachi.

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