Topic: Ruling on marriage (نکاح) at the time of sexual urge (شہوت)   (No-3592)

Q Assalam alaikum. I have a question related to nikkah. I am 20 years old studying in a university and my sexual feelings are on its peak. I am really afraid that I may commit a zina. I told my parents to get me married but they said start earning first. Now, Alhumdulillah, I have a job and I am earning but my parents still have no care for my marriage. They wanted me to get my studies done and get married at the age of 25,26. I am really afraid that Allah may punish me if I go on a wrong way. I really dont want to choose a wrong path but I am afraid. please help me!

a If that’s really your condition, then it has become mandatory (فرض) on you to get married (نکاح), parents should find a suitable match (spouse) and get you married as soon as possible, otherwise in case a sin gets committed by you, the parents will also be liable for torment (عذاب) alongwith you. Moreover, till the time you don’t get married, follow the undermentioned points:-
(1) Protect your eyes (lower your gaze).
(2) Avoid mixing with non-mahrams and other women who are not known.
(3) Keep fast, because fasting suppresses the sexual desires.
(4) Don’t intake such food which increases sexual desires.
(5) Try your best to avoid inappropriate company and thoughts, keep yourself busy as much as possible, avoid loneliness, and where the same is unavoidable, start practicing minimum possible time spending in there.


مشکوۃ المصابیح: (باب الولی فی النکاح و استئذان المرأة، رقم الحدیث: 3138، 191/3، ط: مکتبۃ البشری)
عن أبی سعید وابن عباس رضی الله عنھما قالا: قال رسول الله صلی الله علیہ وسلم: من ولد لہ ولد فلیحسن اسمہ وأدبہ، فاذا بلغ فلیزوجہ، فان بلغ ولم یزوجہ فأصاب اثمًا فانما اثمہ علٰی أبیہ۔“

صحیح البخاری: (کتاب النکاح، رقم الحدیث: 5066، 363/3، ط: دار الکتب العلمیہ)
عن عبد اللّٰہ بن مسعود رضي اللّٰہ عنہ قال: کنا مع النبي صلی اللّٰہ علیہ وسلم شبابًا لا نجدُ شیئًا،فقال لنا رسول اللّٰہ صلی اللّٰہ علیہ وسلم: یا معشر الشباب! من استطاع منکم الباء ۃ فلیتزوج؛ فإنہ أغض للبصر وأحصن للفَرَجِ، ومن لم یستطع فعلیہ بالصوم؛ فإنہ لہ وجاء۔

رد المحتار: (کتاب النکاح، 79/3، ط: سعید)
فإن تیقن الزنا إلا بہ فرض ’’نہایۃ‘‘ أي: بأن کان لا یمکنہ الاحتراز عن الزنا إلا بہ؛ لأن ما لا یتوصل إلی ترک الحرام إلا بہ یکون فرضاً، وہٰذا إن ملک المہر والنفقۃ۔

ALLAH Almighty knows best

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