1) Travelling to Pakistan for a Long Period:
Based on the situation and details you have described, it is not advisable for you to leave your children with their non-Muslim father and travel to Pakistan for an extended period of one year. Doing so could expose the children to serious risks regarding their faith, beliefs, and Islamic identity. At this time, your primary responsibility is the religious upbringing of your children, the protection of their faith, and maintaining a strong relationship with them.
2) Protecting Your Children's Faith:
Safeguarding your children's faith and raising them upon Islam is your greatest duty and most important act of service to the Deen right now. To fulfil this, you should pursue the following course of action on both the legal and moral fronts.
A) Using Your Legal Rights: Carefully review your custody agreement to see if it contains any clauses related to religious education or major decisions. In cases of joint legal custody, both parents have equal rights in religious and educational matters. If your children are being sent to religious programmes or camps, such as Christian missionary camps, without your consent, and these could influence their beliefs, you should immediately seek advice from a qualified family lawyer.
B) Nurturing Your Bond With Your Children: Strengthen your relationship with your children through good character, gentleness, and a positive Islamic environment, so that any negative influences they are exposed to can be countered effectively.
3) A Better Alternative to Travelling to Pakistan:
Rather than travelling to Pakistan, it would be more appropriate for you to remain where you are and consider the following alternatives.
A) Resolving Financial Difficulties: Seek support from your local Muslim community, mosques, Zakat funds, and welfare organisations. Reducing expenses as much as possible and finding suitable sources of income can also help ease the financial burden.
B) Your Husband's Support and Role: Although your current husband is away from you due to visa matters, it is important that he provides you with full emotional, moral, and financial support during this difficult time, to the best of his ability. He should remain in regular contact with you and play an active role in keeping your spirits up, so that through mutual support, your sense of isolation and mental stress can be reduced.
C) Online Islamic Education: Instead of travelling to Pakistan to study, fulfil your desire to learn the Deen through online Islamic education and by staying connected with your local Muslim community, while continuing to raise and nurture your children at the same time.
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دلائل:
القرآن الکریم: (التحریم، الایة: 6)
"يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا ... الخ"
صحيح البخاري: (100/2، ط: دار طوق النجاة)
عن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه، قال: قال النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم: «كل مولود يولد على الفطرة، فأبواه يهودانه، أو ينصرانه، أو يمجسانه، كمثل البهيمة تنتج البهيمة هل ترى فيها جدعاء»
صحيح مسلم: (1459/3، ط: دار إحياء التراث العربي)
عن ابن عمر، عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم أنه قال: «ألا كلكم راع، وكلكم مسئول عن رعيته، فالأمير الذي على الناس راع، وهو مسئول عن رعيته، والرجل راع على أهل بيته، وهو مسئول عنهم، والمرأة راعية على بيت بعلها وولده، وهي مسئولة عنهم، والعبد راع على مال سيده وهو مسئول عنه، ألا فكلكم راع، وكلكم مسئول عن رعيته»،
بدائع الصنائع: (104/7، ط: دار الكتب العلمية)
ولو أسلم أحد الأبوين في دار الحرب، فهو مسلم تبعا له؛ لأن الولد يتبع خير الأبوين دينا لما بينا.
مجلة الأحكام العدلية: (ص: 19 ط: نور محمد)
(المادة 30) : درء المفاسد أولى من جلب المنافع.
Allah the Almighty knows best.
Darul ifta Al-Ikhlas, Karachi.